Do You Have Personality Plus?

The topic of personality came up recently in several ways. First, I have a temporary job at the same location of my husband's. After popping over to his area for a quick visit, another co-worker who was in the area later remarked I had "a lot of personality."

At my previous place of employment, my boss was slightly frustrated by the search for my replacement. He said to me while shaking his head, "None of them have a personality.  Your job isn't just about the paperwork but relating to others."

Finally, a few weeks ago another gentleman remarked upon my personality and how those in my workplace would most likely miss it.

All of these occasions turned my eyes toward the dating arena and how "personality" would usually get the short shrift when evaluating possible matches. As soon as we would hear the dreaded phrase, "But she/he has a great personality!" We inwardly closed a door. We were certain that this was code for "boring" or "unattractive."

Personally, I'll take an unattractive man with a great personality any day over a handsome jerk. But that's me. I've dating both the handsome and the not-so-handsome, but the ones who really captured my heart were the ones who...yes, had a fantastic personality.

So what does having Personality Plus  really mean? I'll summarize it.  It means you have a personality that is "All About You" focused.

Not "All About Me."

People who attract others with their personality look for the best in people, are curious about their lives and listen with sincerity.  They're authentic.  They're positive and upbeat and look at life as a beautiful process of growth; not a long,  drawn-out painful tread toward oblivion.

You and I like being around such people. Once again, as I observe some of the women around me, I realize many have allowed the cares of this world to burden them. They worry. They stress. They're on anti-depressants. It's difficult to smile when everywhere you look, there seems to be a problem.

All of this can drain someone of their personality. What is the antidote? Focus on getting your needs met. If you're lacking in social connections, join a club of your favorite activity. Start meeting new people and strike up conversations. If you're lacking in good nutrition and exercise, make a committment to yourself to do one thing this week to address it. Perhaps join a gym or take a fifteen-minute walk every other day.

The Personality Plus comes from a fulfilled person within. There are many ways to get there and for all of us, it's different.

And if you do happen to have an acquaintance say they have a possible person you might be interested in and they have a "great personality," jump on the offer.

Comments

[Leo]

This post is spot on - I'm currently trying to rework my relationship of 4 years because my BF's personality tends to drain my own as he's consistently worrying about things whereas I'm the bright spark - frustrating and I'm trying to work out how to explain this without hurting his feelings too much! Thanks for clearly explaining it, this could help us!